Partnership Guide
MAINTAIN
How to Maintain Your Relationship
Using the 5 Main Deposits of the Emotional Bank Account (EBA)
The Emotional Bank Account (EBA)
The Emotional Bank Account (EBA) is a metaphor describing the level of trust and goodwill between partners.
Every positive action is a deposit, and every hurtful action is a withdrawal.
Be Polite
Small acts of courtesy matter:
- Use kind words
- Avoid harsh tones
- Show respect even during disagreements
Politeness prevents unnecessary emotional withdrawals and keeps the relationship warm.
Keep Your Promises
Keeping promises strengthens reliability. Breaking promises creates deep withdrawals in trust, so only commit to what you can genuinely do.
Consistency builds emotional security.
Manage Expectations
Unspoken or unrealistic expectations cause disappointment. Healthy partners openly discuss:
- Roles
- Boundaries
- Responsibilities
- Emotional needs
- Future goals
Managing expectations keeps the relationship balanced and fair.
Be Open-Minded
Open-mindedness helps you:
- Accept differences
- Adapt to change
- Listen to your partner's perspective
- Show empathy instead of judgment
Flexibility keeps the relationship dynamic rather than rigid or controlling.
Maintain the Relationship with Regular Attention
Lack of attention slowly drains the relationship. Regular deposits include:
- Checking in emotionally
- Supporting each other's dreams
- Sharing affection
- Spending meaningful time together
A maintained relationship remains strong and healthy over time.